Facebook encourages narcissism, critic says

Mark Dice got irritated as he read Facebook posts:

“Why did I take off work Friday?”

“Football season starts today.”

“Sushi craving taking over.”

“It’s completely worthless,” Dice said, annoyed. “Why would you feel the need to post this as if it’s some important event in your life?”

Don’t even get him started on Twitter, which he says only makes sense for those with a fan base.

The media critic, author and conspiracy theorist has taken on Starbucks over its topless mermaid logo. He’s denounced Sarah Palin for running for vice president instead of staying home with her baby. And he’s encouraged supporters to disrupt the opening of the film, “Angels & Demons” (because he believes the Illuminati is real).

Now he has a beef with Facebook and is calling for a boycott this week.

“It turns people into self-absorbed narcissists,” said Dice, 32, who lives in San Diego. “It’s a catalyst for that. Everybody seems to feel they’re so important, they need to tell the world every little thought and post pictures of themselves everyday.  It’s a place to brag about every little thing they do in life as if they’re the star of their own reality show.”

He says the “friendships” of Facebook are superficial. He sees dangers in putting so many details of one’s life out there and letting pseudo friends in, making people — especially women — vulnerable to cyber stalking.

But, I countered, many healthy, well-adjusted people living full lives use Facebook to further connect with others. What’s wrong with that?

Nothing, he said, the problem comes when it replaces actual friendships.

“It creates pseudo, shallow friendships where you feel you’re still connected but you’re not,” he said. “You’re not interacting on a social level.”

If people don’t log on to Facebook for a week, as he advocates, hopefully they’ll feel the need for real interaction and catch up with people in person or give them a call, he says.

He has another gauge for determining when the Facebook line has been crossed.

“If you need to post a status update almost everyday, that’s very narcissistic” he said. “Make a couple of status updates a month, if something happens. But to feel that you need to make some statement to the world multiple times a day to get self-importance, to get people to respond to your supposedly witty comments, that’s very odd.”

I thought I had him when I pointed out that he himself is on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and has a website.

“My witty comments has to do with the system, criticizing the system, the cause I’m fighting for, not to say I saw a really good movie today or I like creamy peanut butter better than crunchy,” responded Dice. “My comments are socially relevant.”

And, he added, “I twitter rarely.”

Oktoberfest, the real deal

Sure, there’s plenty of opportunities to toast a beer and have a brat in honor of Oktoberfest at fine establishments around town. For  some it’s an annual rite of passage into fall.

But when Brewhouse owner Tim Nelson and head brewer Dave Hoops went to Germany last year and saw the real thing in Munich, they were determined to bring the 200-year-old German tradition to Duluth.

‘The real thing is about dressing up in traditional German costumes, big top tents, polkas,  sing-alongs, souvenirs and games (beer pong, brat eating, team boot drinking, obstacle course relays, hammerschlagen and a keg toss). It’s about German beer and potato salad, handmade pretzels, sauerkraut and beer cheese soup.

So, as though these guys have a “can do” mantra, the first annual Oktoberfest Duluth will be held at Bayfront Festival Park this Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

“It’s just a big fun party,” said Brad Nelson, director of the festival sponsored by the Brewhouse and its parent company. “It’s kind of an excuse to celebrate a different cultural party. We’re taking the idea of Oktoberfest and bringing it to Duluth and celebrating it here.”

The three-day event kicks off at 4 p.m. Friday with the Chmielewski Funtime Band. Mayor Don Ness will be there for the ceremonial tapping of the first keg. The festival continues til 9 p.m. Friday and runs from noon to 9 p.m. Saturday and Sunday with  more bands, food eating contests and tournaments.

You don’t have to dress up in traditional German garb to get in, but it’s encouraged. Kids are welcome, accompanied by their parents. And it won’t cost you anything to get in.

The hope is that it becomes an annual event that grows each year.

“We think it will become a pretty major event,” Nelson said.

Old City Hall pub will take time

Plans to create a restaurant/pub in Duluth’s Old City Hall are moving forward.

Albeit slowly.

But that happens with adapting an historic building to new uses and doing it right. There’s countless details, lots of hoops to jump through and plans to get OK’d by various commissions and the city.

I first told readers in May that owners Rod Raymond and Tim Nelson planned to renovate and open a new restaurant in the 1888 building at 132 E. Superior St. that they have been refurbishing and leasing for office, dance and gym and other use. Aptly called Tycoons, the new restaurant will embrace the building’s history with a fun city founders theme.

At the last city Heritage Preservation Commission meeting, Raymond got the green light for their plans for the Michigan Street level entry that will fit in nicely with the building’s architecture.

Commission Chair Penny Clark praised the Old City Hall team for following the rules for historic preservation and the commission’s direction…  unlike some government entities, suggested Clark.

(The latest culprit: The city of Duluth itself for planning to replace windows of new City Hall, built in 1928 and an official local landmark, with historically incorrect crank-out windows).

But back to Old City Hall which was designed by Oliver G. Traphagen. Since it’s in an historic district, there’s plenty of other hoops for its owners to jump through before a restaurant can open in the building.

Next up is getting a building permit for the interior remodel. Raymond says it might be six months to a year before the restaurant is ready to open on the first floor. But it sounds like it’ll be worth the wait.

Raymond and Nelson own the Fitger’s Brewhouse, Red Star Lounge and the Burrito Union in Duluth. They also purchased the old Carlson bookstore building at 206 E. Superior St. They’re still tossing around ideas for its use, but see it used for music, theater and the arts in some way. But that project is on hold for now, while they focus on the new restaurant in Old City Hall.

New parents, do this first

So you’re a new parent or a soon-to-be one.

Beyond day-to-day expenses to provide for your family, what should you be doing to ensure a secure future?

Start a savings plan? Get life insurance? Start a college fund?

Nope.

None of the above,  says Clark Howard, this blogger’s favorite money expert for regular folks. What you need to do first is make sure you and your spouse have wills. Wills aren’t just for divvying up money, property and possessions after you’re gone.

“If something terrible did happen to you and your wife, you need to set out in a will who would  see to raising your child for you,” Howard said on a recent edition of his cable show.

Once you get that will taken care of, then focus on life insurance. Adequate life insurance provides for your children up to age 18 and provides for a surviving spouse if one parent should die.

“You’re going to need money to provide for child care that maybe you could have provided yourselves,” he said.

After a will and life insurance, then comes savings.